Anyone who has ever attempted to write a story or a book, or even an essay, understands how hard it is to talk about what your are writing. I imagine that people working in other art forms will have this type of issue as well.
You start off either flying by the seat of your pants and hoping you will be able to construct a loose plot as you go, or you go into the project with an outline and character descriptions and entire worlds created on scrap paper and stick with a tight story arc.
I have tried writing both ways, and believe me, they are equally difficult.
But regardless of the method I choose to follow on a project, I find that I am always hesitant to share much of my ideas with others. I don’t know if it is an underlying fear that they will tell me the whole idea is stupid, or if I will find that in stating the details out loud that I will tell myself it is stupid. (Nothing like killing a story before you ever write a word!)
Whatever the reason, I have found that stories tend to lose some of their magic the more they are hashed out over coffee or dinner. Plot twists that seem interesting in your mind but are not fully formed, seem less plausible when spoken aloud. And characters, fully fleshed out in your writing but shared too soon, become flat and dull.
No, I tend to suffer in silence as my story unfolds, worrying over details and character flaws by myself, and hoping it will all come together at some later point. Once written, my husband is the first to see my stories. For better or worse, he is stuck with that task. 🙂 At that point, I am open to discuss plot, character, setting and so on until every loose end is seamlessly weaved into the story.
At the start of NaNoWriMo a few years ago, a fellow writer posted this link to a very funny Mitchell and Webb Youtube Video. I think this is the reason I keep my stories to myself until they are on the page. Too many ideas thrown about (or not) will cause my muse to run screaming for a dark corner where she will curl into a fetal position and rock back and forth until the helpful advisor leaves the room.
Tell me if you have ever gotten this kind of “help” with your writing!