Perfectionism Part II
Last week, I posted about perfectionism and how it keeps most of us from chasing our dreams. If you missed it, you can check it out – here.
I have noticed that the universe has a way of tossing things in our path when it wants us to wake up and notice something. In my internet travels this week, I came across some other posts that were talking about the same thing.
In Why Perfectionism Kills Your Creativity, writer Eugene Choi, explains that perfectionism kills our creativity in three ways. It shames us for making mistakes. It uses fear instead of passion to motivate us. And it stunts our growth.
Another post by author Jeff Goins, didn’t talk about perfectionism specifically, but talks about the secrets to a good life. He talks about having passion, embracing fear and doing the hard scary things. In essence, he preaches anti-perfection. Last week, I explained that perfectionism is a form of fear and it causes us to procrastinate. If you follow Jeff’s advice, you will go after your dreams with passion and not let the fear put up a road block.
Over at Tiny Buddha, Karen Mead’s post, “Overcoming Perfectionism: The Joy of Just Okay,” really spoke to me. She spoke about embracing the experience more than the outcome. This is something I have always struggled with. I get so wrapped up in the planning and worrying about everything turning out perfect that I don’t pay a lot of attention to the process.
As creatives, and just people trying to live a good life, we need to let things go. Let’s learn to allow mistakes to happen sometimes. Let’s embrace the moment and actually experience the process of whatever we are doing. Let’s compare ourselves only to ourselves and not worry so much about what everyone else is doing.
In the words of Neil Gaiman,
I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something.So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it.Make your mistakes, next year and forever.