Stay Together and Hold Hands
Fear has a way of stopping us in our tracks. Sometimes, though, life decides it knows what is best for us and delivers a good swift kick in the butt, forcing us out of our comfort zones and into the unknown.
This has happened in my household over the last six months. My husband and his parents have closed the doors to the company that they called their work home for their entire lives. My in-laws are finally going to retire and give themselves some well-deserved downtime. My husband, however, is in that unenviable position of looking for another job after 30 years.
There have been the expected stages of grief -denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. At times, I think all of them have been warring against each other in his heart and mind at the same time. He finds himself asking, “what do I want to do when I grow up?” The problem, of course, with this question is that what we want to do may not pay the bills, and what we find to pay the bills may drain the life out of us. This is where we seek a balance.
So, do we take a job that isn’t our dream job because it will earn some income and act as a bridge to a better job? Or do we just go for it and follow our dreams, start our own business, take a chance?
I have written about chasing dreams and fear. The catch is that I have not had to chase the dream in lieu of the day job. There has always been the safety net that allows me to throw caution to the wind and put my writing out there. If I failed, at least I wouldn’t starve.
My husband doesn’t have that luxury with this decision. Thankfully, we are okay at the moment. We have saved like crazy on the off-chance that something like this would happen. So there is grocery money without dipping in to savings. I have my job and that will keep the lights on. But at some point in the next year or so, some choices will have to be made.
I am far from an inspirational guru. God knows, I have let fear turn me into a quivering mess on more than one occasion. But I have learned this.
It is always easier if you go through the bad stuff together and hold hands. That is what I offer. And each day, I pray that along with my unshakable belief that he is capable of whatever he puts his mind to, this is what he needs. Support and someone to hold his hand. 🙂
This will pass. Deep in my heart, I know that this will pass and he will find the perfect place to be work-wise.
I also know that sometimes we have to leap and build our wings on the way down.