Finding What You Didn’t Lose
I admit it. I sometimes find myself in some deep ruts that I can’t seem to claw my way out of. I get caught up in all the day-to-day detritus and lose track of what I want to accomplish. My writing takes a backseat to, well, everything else in the world.
Sometimes this happens because I am legitimately exhausted and burned out from my day job and the additional professional goals I find myself pursuing. Sometimes though, I think it is just because I seem to subconsciously enjoy chasing my tail.
At least, that’s what it feels like. I get so caught up in the pre-planning stage that I never even start. Pre-planning is that lovely, romantic time when you are simply in love with the idea of doing something. You research it, read about it, talk about it, make grand plans of when you will have time to do it. BUT you never actually do any of it.
This is when the most important life skill we can learn is to simply get out of our own way. We have to train ourselves to just take that first step. No matter how small and insignificant it may seem on the surface, those baby steps add up and will carry you across the finish line.
Instead, we often let ourselves wallow in the pre-planning because the hill we are wanting to climb seems too high and too steep. So we putter around and blame a lack of time or energy on our lack of progress.
The worst part for me is knowing that I know how to get out of my own way, and yet I still have trouble doing it. There have been many times in the last five years or so where I have set a goal and buckled down and taken all those little baby steps to achieve it. Yet, with each new goal, I dig a deep rut and sit there contemplating it instead of just starting.
As I mentioned in my post last week, life is short. And sometimes it doesn’t wait for you to decide to begin. Sometimes it throws even more obstacles in your path so you give up, you postpone, you let your doubt take control of your heart.
Stop doing that to yourself.
Sit yourself down and have a long heart to heart with the right-now-you and the you-you-want-to-become. Decide what steps need to be taken. Write them down. Break them down into even tinier steps so that accomplishing one seems like a no-brainer, something you can do in an hour, a day, a weekend. And then start checking those steps off as you move toward your dreams.
You know what you need to do. You just need to start.